Sacrifice?
Found this post in www.peyups.com
I have already sacrificed a lot for my girlfriend.
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I seem to be always giving a lot... Sacrificing a lot... And sometimes in the back of my mind there's something knocking that im giving too much. I really love her, but she just always takes and takes and I always give and give...
I dunno, but if this keeps on then I think Im better off alone, a relationship is a 2-way street, not a 1-laner
... in a perfect world, we are initially attracted to people who possess attributes we admire - good looks, intelligence, eloquence, a money, expertise, endurance (lol), etc etc. By getting together with that person, there is a perception that there is going to be personal gain. And if everything goes well, that indeed happens.This made sense really, but what if only 1 party is willing to make a sacrifice?
But in a less than perfect world, it's not so easy.
Sometimes getting together with that person comes at a high price and sometimes comes at a terrible price. Sometimes the family or society may not agree. Sometimes, the other person might have serious problems that complicate the relationship. Sometimes, we might have problems and not the other person.
In today's capitalist society, personal self-centeredness reigns supreme and short term gain is pursued over long term gain. Our time horizons are very short. We want satisfaction now. Very few people I encounter have been taught patience, perseverance and self-sacrifice - especially the kind where you have to deliberately go into personal pain and hardship over many years in the pursuit of some common goal that would benefit that which you love.
And I think that's why a lot of people get disappointed so quickly because they quickly realize that it's an imperfect world and that it takes real sacrifice to sustain love.
I would dare say that love is measured by the degree of sacrifice.
But most people are unprepared to sacrifice anything. They are more comfortable with getting their satisfaction now and right away - which actually leads to more unhappiness.
When was the last time your heard somebody say to them -
'I love you, babe, I will sacrifice for you'.
I have already sacrificed a lot for my girlfriend.
Time
Health
Resources
I seem to be always giving a lot... Sacrificing a lot... And sometimes in the back of my mind there's something knocking that im giving too much. I really love her, but she just always takes and takes and I always give and give...
I dunno, but if this keeps on then I think Im better off alone, a relationship is a 2-way street, not a 1-laner
posted by Brando at
8/18/2008 12:27:00 PM
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